The “perfect” bridesmaid dress that turned into a nightmare.

So my best friend is getting married next spring, and she asked me to be a bridesmaid. I was thrilled, until the dress saga began.

At first, she picked out a beautiful dusty blue dress from a boutique. Totally fine. Pricey but manageable. A few weeks later, she changed her mind because her fiancé’s sister didn’t like the color against the groomsmen’s suits. Now she wants us to wear a “soft sage green” instead, except the exact dress she wants doesn’t come in that shade.

Her solution? We all have to order the dress in white and then dye it ourselves. I nearly choked when she sent the group chat instructions like it was some DIY Pinterest project. One bridesmaid is panicking because she’s never dyed clothes before, and another is worried the dresses won’t all match. The bride keeps insisting, “It’ll be so rustic and unique!” Meanwhile, we’re the ones footing the bill for multiple trial-and-error dye attempts.

I love her, but this feels like it’s spiraling. I don’t want to be “that bridesmaid” who complains, but it’s hard not to feel stressed when it’s costing extra money and time.

Would it be unreasonable to push back and say we’d rather buy something already in the right color? Or is this just part of bridesmaid life?

The fiancé's sister should be the one in charge of dying all the gowns.

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