The bride told us to wear neutrals, then got upset that no one wore color.

I attended a wedding last weekend for a coworker I’m friendly with. It was a lovely event, outdoor ceremony, simple decorations, and honestly, a very chill vibe overall. But there was a weird bit of tension that started before the wedding even happened, and came to a head at the reception.

In the invitation, under Dress Code, the bride had written, Please wear neutral tones, think beige, cream, soft gray, taupe, or dusty rose. Let the flowers bring the color

I thought that was a cute idea and respected her wishes. I ended up wearing a soft beige jumpsuit and most of the other guests were in similar shades, creams, tan, champagne, dusty pinks. Very muted and elegant.

But at the reception, during her toast, the bride jokingly said, I thought you guys would surprise me with a few pops of color, but I guess everyone really listened

It got an awkward laugh, but you could tell she was genuinely disappointed. Later on, I overheard her talking to one of her friends saying, It looks like everyone is dressed for a funeral.

A few people started wondering if they had misunderstood the dress code, but we all double-checked, the wording was pretty clear. She didn’t say optional neutrals, she asked for them. I even texted the group I came with before we arrived and we confirmed the exact phrasing.

Now some mutual are saying she’s annoyed at how seriously everyone took it, and that she wanted more vibrancy in the photos. Personally, I think if you want a specific look, you have to own it, not get passive-aggressive when people do what you ask.

It wasn’t a blowout or anything, but it definitely left some guests feeling awkward. Especially those who spent time and money picking something that would fit her theme.

Oh no, she got what she asked for....

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