She tried on a wedding dress at my bridal fitting.

My fiancé’s best man? Love him.
His wife? I am this close to disinviting her from everything.

We are not friends. Not enemies either. I just didn’t choose her to be part of my bridal party because why would I? 

We’ve never hung out one-on-one. She assumed she’d be included to “match” her husband. I told her, kindly, that wasn’t happening. My bridal party is made up of childhood friends and cousins flying in from across the country. 

It’s personal. It matters to me. She doesn’t.

Since then, it feels like she’s made it her mission to wedge herself into every part of the wedding.

She’s been “offering suggestions” for the bridal shower despite not being involved. Tried to co-plan the rehearsal dinner before we even finalized the guest count. 

And she invited herself on the bachelorette trip. She told the other girls she was coming and somehow made them feel guilty for not including her. Now I’m the one who looks mean for trying to set a boundary.

And most recently, she showed up to my dress fitting. I hadn’t invited her. 

She said she just wanted to watch. While I was trying on gowns, she pulled a dress right from the rack, said she just wanted to feel pretty too.

She tried it on. And walked out in front of everyone. She told the associate she wanted something sexier than what I was wearing. Everyone laughed nervously like it was a joke.

She does this thing where, if anyone tells her no or doesn’t immediately do what she wants, she cries. Says she’s being bullied and plays the victim so hard that everyone else ends up feeling like the bad guy.

And then she gets her way anyway.

My fiancé has talked to his best friend multiple times. When it’s just the two of them, the best man gets it. He agrees she’s being overbearing. Says he’ll talk to her. 

But the second she’s in the room, it’s like someone yanked the spine out of him. He nods along to everything she says and suddenly all the boundaries we agreed on just disappear.

She is making me miserable.

This is a vent post, but I could really use advice on how to deal with her without turning my entire wedding into something about her.

She needs a reality check. She's a grown adult throwing tantrums. Don't entertain it.

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