My MIL is Wearing White to My Wedding.

I thought we were all on the same page.

Turns out, we are not even in the same book.

My fiancé’s mom asked what to wear to our wedding. Easy.

I said: “Anything formal and fun! Just not white, obviously.”

Keyword: obviously.

Because I didn’t think I needed to spell it out in crayon.

Fast forward a few days.

She calls. She’s giddy.

She says she found “the perfect dress.”

Her exact words: “It’s white, but it’s got some personality to it.”

Pause.

I ask what exactly that means.

She says it has shimmer.

And soft patterns.

Whatever the hell that means.

I ask for a photo. She says no.

Says I’m being controlling and “wants it to be a surprise.”

Girl.

You are not the bride.

What surprise??

I don’t push. There’s no sense in arguing with someone who thinks she’s the main character.

I ask my fiancé to say something, so he calls his dad.

His dad says — and I quote —

“It’s a bit lighter than expected. But she’s already set on it and doesn’t want the drama of buying a new dress.”

Ah yes.

The drama.

Of not wearing white to your son’s wedding.

As if asking for a different color is some kind of emotional terrorism.

But the part that got me?

Apparently — apparently — she made a comment that “not everyone looks good in white anyway,” and that I “might not pull it off the way she can.”

Sorry what???

Are we... in a competition?

Because if we are, someone forgot to tell me I was playing.

So now I’m three weeks out, trying to decide if I’m losing it or if this is as unhinged as it feels.

I don’t want to be that bride. I really don’t.

But it’s one day.

ONE.

Don’t wear white. That’s it. That’s the entire ask.

Apparently even that is too much.

So what now?

Do I push it? Do I risk the scene?

Or do I just hand her the mic and let her do the walk down the aisle, since that’s clearly what she wants?

I feel like weddings bring out the most uncomfortable situations.

The “it’s a surprise” part? Absolutely not. You’re not the bride and this isn’t your moment.

Would you say something? Or have someone spill a drink “accidentally”? 👀 I swear every bride needs a backup plan for this exact scenario.

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