Is it okay/normal to ask bridesmaids not to wear glasses during the ceremony and for pictures?

I am the bridesmaid being asked, not the bride. We are all mid-20s. I have known the bride since preschool and we are very close friends. She's like a sister to me. In the wedding party, 2/8 bridesmaids wear glasses and the other bespectacled bridesmaid has already agreed to wear contacts. The bride wears them as well and rarely wears glasses.

This is a very high-budget wedding scheduled for early fall.

Really, I'm just asking if this kind of request is normal because I found it kind of presumptuous and obnoxious, but this is the first wedding I have ever been in as an adult and I don't really know what's "normal."

I ultimately can see okay enough without glasses and I have already agreed with the bride to take them off for the ceremony + photo sessions.

I was talking to the bride recently about her wedding makeup trial. She is paying for the bridal party's makeup as well. She made a comment about me wearing contacts, and I was confused. I have never, ever worn contacts in my entire life. She knows this. I've been wearing glasses for 20 years and she has known me all of that time. I asked her if she really expected me to wear contacts and she looked me straight in the eyes and said "well, yes. [Other bridesmaid who wears contacts regularly] is doing it. I thought you would too."

I told her I have never worn them and that I'm not really open to wearing them because I don't like the idea of contacts from a sensory standpoint. She insisted they are fine and easy to wear and that my glasses will not look right in the photos because no other bridesmaid will be wearing them. I tell her I also don't want to pay for a new prescription because I am tight on money. She says they won't cost that much. I tell her I just can't do it and she says okay, then can you just take them off for the ceremony + pictures? And I'm like fine, but why? And she keeps saying that this is a totally normal thing for bridesmaids and that it isn't a big deal. I say it's fine and I'll just take them off, and we agree and move on.

But I'm curious...is this actually normal? It's not like she's asking her elderly grandfather or her dad to take THEIR glasses off for the ceremony & pictures, so it can't be about photo glare. Also, a decent photographer could shop the glare out. So it sort of feels like this is about looks, and that kind of hurts my feelings, although I know she didn't mean it like that. She also just assumed I would do it and acted very much like I was being silly to push back, and I didn't really like that either.

Overall she's been a very chill bride and I love her very much. This isn't that big a deal and I'll do it. But I did want to ask about just how normal this is. I have a lot of other weddings I'm going to be in in the coming years...will other brides expect this as well?

Bridesmaids are people, not accessories.

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