I found out my wedding was cancelled… from a vendor.

I wasn’t going to post this, but I need to vent. Maybe putting it here will help me stop laying on the floor and staring at the ceiling.

I got a phone call last week from one of our wedding vendors. I answered assuming I was getting a timeline update from them. But no. All I got was a polite, confused woman asking if I could confirm that the wedding had been cancelled.

I wasn’t really sure how to respond. I thought they had the wrong person.

Maybe they meant another couple or that something got mixed up with the date.

Nope.

Turns out, my fiancé’s parents had started calling our vendors to cancel everything. Behind my back. Without a single conversation. This was literally the first time I heard about anything related to cancelling my wedding.

And the fact I heard it from a vendor. Not my fiancé. Not his family. A vendor.

Here’s the part I still can’t wrap my head around: he proposed to me. He was excited. He picked the venue with me. He helped make the guest list. We were happy. Or at least I thought we were.

A couple of weeks ago, we went on a family vacation with his parents. Looking back now, the vibe was cold. They left me out of most group plans, barely spoke to me. I remember thinking maybe I’d done something wrong or maybe they were just stressed. 

I didn’t push it. I figured they’d come around.

Apparently, instead of coming around, they decided he “wasn’t ready” and just… pulled the plug.

And the worst part? He let them.

He told me, over the phone, that he “didn’t want to upset them more” by pushing back. That he thought they were just “overreacting” and it would all blow over. But meanwhile, they were cancelling our wedding behind my back and he just let them.

I asked when he planned to tell me. He didn’t have an answer.

I guess they’d been saying I was “pressuring him” or “moving too fast.” Even though he was the one who got down on one knee. And I made sure at every step that he was okay with the pace, the plans, the budget. He always said yes.

Now they’re asking for the ring back. It was a family heirloom. His mom sent me a message saying she hopes I’ll do the “mature thing” and return it quickly.

That message came the same day my wedding dress was ready for pick up. 

I haven’t answered yet. I don’t even know what I’d say.

The wedding’s off. My fiancé is gone. And apparently, I was the last one to know.

The fact that he didn’t stop them, or at the very least tell you himself, says everything.

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