Are we ungrateful?

My husband and I had our wedding two weeks ago. When we first started planning, we asked his parents if we could have the wedding at their house and expressed that we would be happy to pay for a venue if not. They said that it was absolutely okay and they were happy to host it. Their property needed a little bit of work so we both went up there nearly every weekend for a year to help out. (They were already planning to do all this work for their personal use but we definitely sped up the process).

From the beginning, we expected the venue to be our only gift from them. Flash forward to a few months before the wedding and they told us that they wanted to pay for our honeymoon. We were surprised but super appreciative that they offered and said “thank you.” Wedding day has come and gone and we never received anything. When asked about our trip, my husband mentioned that we were excited but stressed because it’s expensive. His parents got awkward and changed the subject quickly.

This signaled to us that we would not be getting anything from them. We feel guilty being let down by this because they did help us a lot but it just feels weird to offer to pay for someone’s entire honeymoon and not follow through. To provide context, money is not an issue at all and they are very generous with their other children. Be honest, are we ungrateful?

You only expected it because they offered. If they changed their minds and didn't clearly communicate that, of course you'd feel confused and let down.

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