AITA for telling my fiancé he can’t have a bachelor weekend?

So I (28F) am getting married in a few months, and honestly, I feel like I’ve been super chill compared to most brides.

I’m planning 95% of this wedding myself, down to every last detail. The napkin colors, the playlist, the seating chart drama, all of it. It’s literally the most important day of my life.

Well, last week my fiancé (30M) randomly brings up the idea of him and “a few of the guys” renting a lake cabin for a bachelor weekend. Like fishing, drinking, “just the boys” kind of thing. And I was like… are you serious?

I told him absolutely not. I said I think it's actually super rude to even suggest that when there’s so much still to do for the wedding. Like, imagine taking time off to go fish with your buddies while I’m finalizing vendors and making sure our welcome bags have the correct font labels.

He said he thought it would be low-key and fun and a way to “say goodbye to bachelorhood.” I was like, um, you already said goodbye when you proposed to me. Do you even know who I am?? This isn’t some frat boy party situation. We’re getting married. I’m not gonna sit around while he plays redneck with beers in the woods.

I told him I don’t want a bachelorette weekend either (even though my bridesmaids are planning something) because I think that whole tradition is outdated and tacky. Why would you want to celebrate “freedom” right before pledging your life to someone? Like?? That logic doesn’t even make sense.

He got quiet and said he felt like he wasn’t allowed to have anything for himself in this process, which is just… dramatic.

Sorry, but the wedding is supposed to be about the bride. That’s just facts.

Now he’s been sulking and his best man texted me saying I “overreacted” and that the guys were excited to do something special for him. I honestly think that’s manipulative. Like sorry but no, this isn’t his moment. He’ll have the rest of his life to hang out with the guys.

So now I’m getting crap from people acting like I’m controlling or something, but I genuinely don’t see the problem.

I’m not mad at him, I just think it’s a dumb idea and not appropriate when we’re this close to the big day.

I feel like I know the answer to this one, but should still ask… AITA?

The man just wants a lake and a beer. Let him have it.

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