AITA for hiding my 7 year relationship from my parents?

I (26F) grew up on the same street as my now-fiancé (26M). He was the kind of kid who all the moms in the neighborhood talked about. Loud, constantly in trouble, never home on time. 

And my parents were the ones who hated him most.

The thing that locked it in that my parents never shut up about, was one night when we were sixteen.

His parents were out of town, and he threw a party. Huge. People on the lawn, music blasting at 1am, empty bottles all over the street. 

My parents walked over to tell him to shut it down. He was wasted. Like belligerently, stumbling, aggressive drunk. I don’t know exactly what happened. My mom’s never given me the full play-by-play, but apparently he cussed them out and yelled in my dad’s face. Just totally snapped.

They never let it go. For them, he stopped being a kid that night and became known as “Human garbage”. My mom, still till this day, will casually drop comments to me like “you better not end up with a moron like that.” “Do you remember that asshole kid? He's probably cracked out now”.

He moved away after high school to go to college. His mom moved out of town too. For a while, it’s like he was erased from the neighborhood.

Except we stayed in touch. Quietly. And when I was nineteen, we started dating. We've been together ever since.

He finished school last year. His mom moved back to town recently. He’s home for a bit while looking for a place.

The thing is, his mom’s known this whole time and has been so supportive of us. And yes, she knows about our engagement.

So that’s when we came up with the plan.

His mom started going to the same church as my parents. Casually. Rebuilt some friendliness with my parents. Then after a couple of weeks, she said something like, “Our kids are the same age right? We should try setting them up”.

My mom immediately shut it down. Didn’t even let her finish. Just said no. Said he hadn’t changed. Said she didn’t want me anywhere near him.

The plan didn’t work. The tension’s still there. 

So finally I had enough. 

Last night I sat them down to tell them. I started saying, “I know you’ve hated him for years. I know that. But there’s something you guys need to know. Because the truth is, we’re engaged.

Omg don’t leave me hanging like that!! What did your parents say??

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