AITA for Hating My Disney Proposal?

My boyfriend (now fiancé, I guess) proposed to me at Disneyland and I can't stop cringing about it.

He’s the Disney adult in the relationship. Not me. I don’t hate it, but I’m not the type to dream about getting proposed to in front of a castle surrounded by churros and screaming toddlers. But whatever.

He booked the trip. Said it was spontaneous. I went along with it because he was excited and thought sure, why not. Vacation.

The day was already off. We argued before we even got through the gates because he was freaking out over Lightning Lane times or whatever.

We waited in line forever for a ride I didn’t care about. It was hot and I swear every five steps I took I would smell something different and not in a good way. Just thick, gross air.

I was starving. He kept saying “we’ll eat after this next thing” for hours. I was trying not to lose it.

Then...

We’re pushing through this massive crowd near the castle. I’m just ahead of him, trying to get out of the sun and maybe sit down before I pass out.

I turn around. He’s on one knee.

Middle of the walkway. People are bumping into us. A baby is full-on screaming two feet away. Someone yells “GET OUT OF THE WAY.” And he’s just smiling up at me like this is the most magical thing in the world.

I said yes because what else was I supposed to do? But I could barely smile. I was dehydrated, confused, and mostly just embarrassed. My stomach dropped.

And now he keeps telling people I was “totally surprised!” which... yeah. I was. I had absolutely no idea he thought that was the move.

I love him. I want to marry him. But that moment wasn’t for me. It felt like I was just part of his Disney fantasy.

All i needed was quiet, private and I would be over the moon right now.

Anyway. We’re engaged. Yay. But I keep thinking about how awkward it felt and how fake my smile probably looked.

So... am I the asshole for feeling disappointed and weird about the whole thing?

Soft YTA. I get why it wasn’t your dream, but did you ever talk about proposals before? Some people genuinely think big/public is the only way. If it’s bothering you this much, you should talk to him.

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